This was the big question , probably because it involves so many issues.
Considering I am a single man , I took a long time to think whether it was the right decision to raise a kid by myself. I started reading about the implications of being a single dad and I found lots of studies, lots of information , lots of debates, but who knows the answer?
The main issue was clear to me , parenting is different for everybody. Is not a matter of your marital status or your sexuality , is a matter of how much love and effort you invest in it. Being aware and preparing yourself for parenting is wise , but I believe one learns along the way.
Kids don’t come to the world with an instructions manual so a parent learns every second, maybe the clue is how much do we want to learn and how important is for us to learn.
So , I started looking for more information about the available methods for having a baby and I decided that Gestational Surrogacy was the way to go.
There are several countries around the world where surrogacy is legal, but in most countries there is a legal “void”.
The countries I researched were: USA, Cyprus and India.
There are several clinics that will offer a full service, the next step was to look for the right clinic that would fit my requirements.
I lost count of how many e-mails I sent asking for information and feedback about each clinics policies about single parents , payments , legal aspects , success rate , etc. The information I was receiving was totally overwhelming so I decided to go with the experts. I signed up for a group in Yahoo ( Gaydads), that only deals with parenting issues. I posted a message and it was incredible how many replies I received.
One of the replies I got was from Glenn and Per from Sweden, they went through with surrogacy and they were about to pick up their baby in two weeks. I have to give special thanx to them because they gave me the information about Dr. Shivani ( links are available at the blog).
I contacted them and form the begging I had all the information I needed , the staff was amazing ( thanx Margarida you are still my favorite!!). Since the first time I contacted them , everything started flying really fast. By the time I realized i was on a flight to Delhi……
Lots of thing involved in the middle…. tell u more in the next post 🙂