Happy ending part 1

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Hi Everybody!

First I must apologize for being such a lazy blogger lately but I do have some really good reasons for my absence.

On the 27t of march I was working when I receive a call from Dr. Shivani , she said: You are a daddy to a baby girl! …

Of course I almost flipped but i was extremlly happy at fist then the stressed started to build up.

Ziara was suppossed to be born today may seventh , so she was around 6-7 weeks early.

She weighed only 1.86 kilograms and she was barely 40 cm long. Dr. Gupta ( pediatrician) said that she was ok , but that with premature babies you have to see day by day how they develop.

As soon as I received the news I started organizing the rip because I wanted to be close to hear as soon as possible. I was able to reach Delhi by April 2th .

I met my baby girl on the third. I must say I was shocked with all the things that happened in the past week, but I accomplished to be with her.

When i saw her I burst into tears like a little boy, she was extremely tiny and fragile. She was breathing by herself but she had a feeding tube trough her mouth all the way down to her stomach. I cant believe how small she was, my whole hand was able to cover all her body!!! It was very strange to look at her so skinny and naked. I must say it is shocking because it was my first time looking and touching a premature baby.

It is amazing how a bond is instantly made , Isaw her for the first time and it was love at first sight… she is the most beautiful and perfect thing that god ever made. I bet every parent thins that when they get to meet their babies.

The clinic is very small but it is one of the few clinics/hospitals in Delhi that specialises in newborns and they have advance equipments for them. Dr. Gupta is my pediatrician so he from the beginning told me to be patient because with premature babies you have to take one day at a time.

Premature babies have a tube all the way down to their stomach from where the nurses send the feed. At the begging is not milk but other stuff to compensate for the energy.

Ziara was on antibiotics since she was born because she had a mild infection in her intestines , this is common for premature babies.

The second day i returned to the clinic ( I only get 10 minutes with her) I was totally devastated . Ziara was intubated and she was very yellow and thin. she had lost almost 100 grams since the day before and she was not doing very good. Doctor said that they were doing all the could to keep her but that we will have to wait.

My world crushed so i went back to the hotel and locked myself in. I started thinking about all the possible scenarios and none of them was promising. I had to do nothing else but to wait and try to pray for my little angels life.

The day after I cam back and she was doing much better , she was not on oxygen and it seemed she was better. She was on photo therapy because her bilirubins were high.

The days started to go by faster and Ziara started taking milk trough her tube , the she started taking milk with a syringe , then started feeding with a spoon and finally she took the bottle.

She started to gain an average of 30 grams every day and the doctor took her off the caffeine and off the antibiotics. By the 13th of April she was doing great and after 20 days she was discharged on the 16th.

On the 13th mom came to Delhi so I was very happy!!!! and of course Ziara too!.

The day she got discharged we took er to the hotel and it was amazing!!!!

I cant describe the feeling of being able to hold her , kiss her and being able to provide everything she needs.

It is amazing how instinct flourish and everything comes in naturally, spontaneously.

When she was released she was 1.95 kg and 2 days under my care we came back to the clinic and she was 2 kg. Doctor was very happy and of course grandma and I.

When Ziara was discharged the doctor was very worried because he didn’t think I was fit to take care of hr by myself . But I prove them wrong , now Ziara is almost 1 6 weeks old and she is 2.6 kg hahaha growing very very fast.

I used to hear people saying that the first month is hard because you get up at night and bla bla bla. This is true but it is the most amazing thing to take care of your baby!!! I decided I don’t need the assistance of a nurse because I have mom with me. She is very nice because she just looks at me how I deal with my little princess and she recommends little tips and things that ave made our life easier. I must thank her because she is the best teacher… I love her dearly, and for the record she raised me as a very good daddy/mommy.

Babies are easy to understand , thy cry when they need something , if they don’t cry is because they are okay. Soon enough one learns when they have a gas discomfort , when they are hungry , when they are warm ,etc,etc. This is what dads/moms do , we learn from the babies and we try to teach them something every day.

The greatest thing is to kiss Ziara to death and talk to her and put her on top of my chest and cuddle. I see it as us being a small family , the best of friends and of course as being two strangers that love each other dearly.

When she sleeps in my chest she goes very quiet and she just  breathes…. i feel the happiest man alive.

I had an Idea of how I was going to feel , but after living it…. I was wrong. It is impossible to even imagine how much one loves a daugther.

There are so many things that I would love to share with you….but there are simply not enough words.

I am here for all the questions that you might have… specially if you are a single parent.

Is no that scary , is not that hard….it is great!

I will continue this post soon!!!

Thanx for reading.

I hope everybody is doing great , specially the people from our small surrogacy family. I had the pleasure to meet Bernadette , Xavi & Jose , and the guys from Sweden ( sorry I cant remember your names).

Hope to hear from you guys soon .

I would like to take a bit of time to Thank Dr. Shivani , Rachna , Margarida and all the SCI Staff. You guys are just the best , you make miracles happen.

Blessing for all of you.

Have a great day , soon the post will be about parenting I guess :).

xoxo

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About ecaiozzi

I am Enzo , born and raised in Quito - Ecuador ( South America). When I was 16 the adventure of my life started when thanx to the support of my parents I left to ^Prince Edward Island, Canada. Stayed there for a year with the Wilsons ( You are always in my mind) and met some of the most special people in the world ( Yes Syl it is you ). After the exchange program was over I decided to stay in Canada so I moved to Toronto and started studying biotechnology research applied to genetics . Was never good at school but I sure made it very well through college. Came back to Ecuador in 2004 and started working at a family business oriented to the manufacture of chemical products , cosmetics and a manufacturer of different product for international corporations. I have been working there since then in the production department and also in the HQSE (Health, Quality, Safety and Environment) department. Around june 2010 , something started growing inside so by August I was sure I wanted to become a parent. Since then , I have been through he most amazing journey that I am trying to share with you. I hope you enjoy it as much as I have, and most important of all I hope that other intending parents can realize that there are ways to make your dreams come true. All you need is love , determination and lots of information and support. Hopefully this blog will make a little change in someone's life , small changes are sometimes the most important ones. I heard this quote on a TV program ( not the best source for a quote) , and for sure it describes the way I want to feel: " Adapt or die. As many times as we've heard it, the lesson doesn't get easier. The problem is we're human. We want more than just to survive. We want love. We want success. We want to be the best that we can be. So, we fight like hell to get those things. Anything else feels like death." Thanx for reading...

27 responses »

  1. so happy for you enzo. was wondering where you were. good to know she is good. her name is really lovely too

  2. Wow and Congratulations !!!! I have been checking your blog very often and hoped you would post news soon as Ziaras due date was looming. So glad everything is ok and your beautiful daughter is united with you and it is wonderful that you have such a supportive and loving mother to guide you in your shiny new role as dad. Best wishes for continued progress and for you and your new family heading home soon – Joy !

    • Hi! Thank you very much for your comment.
      Yes we are lucky I cant disagree on that.
      I was telling a friend the other day that When you do surrogacy you have to look for your baby, fight, persevere…. And then you get the best reward.
      Hopefully all the road travelled becomes an advantage When raising my baby… We will have to wait and see.
      Thanx for reading!!!

  3. Congratulations. As the parent of 3 premature babies, I can assure you they grow VERY VERY quickly and catch up to full term babies in no time at all.
    Your words take me back to how I felt when our children were born. It is a miracle!
    Best wishes.

    • Thank you Edward! Yes it is pretty amaizing how they grow and gain weigth! I guess becoming a parent is the best thing after all 🙂
      Best wishes!

    • Dear Kerrie!!!!
      Thank you for your comment. I hope everyhting is going ok with you guys!
      Ziara is the best thing that ever happened to me…she is an angel!!!!!!!!!!
      Have a nce one!
      xoxo

  4. Oh what a difficult journey but with a fantastic, life-changing reward at the end. Congratulations to you and Ziara! I saw your photo on Dr. Shivani’s blog and you look incredibly happy and fulfilled! Hope you get to go home soon! Or maybe you already are home. Take care and enjoy!!

    • Dear Doug, thanx for your comment. It is a fantastic journey u would do it again for sure. It is a Great feeling to become a parent and also to let people know that there is lots of hope.
      Good luck, best wishes!!!!

      • Thank you guys! Long time since o last heard from you.
        I need aun update please! As usual your words and wishes are very welcomed. Xoxo from Ziara and I.

  5. Hi Enzo, I only just found your blog now through Dr Shivani’s link. Congratulations! Your heartfelt writing is beautiful and I think Ziara will be a very lucky girl. I love her name. Enjoy! Parenthood is wonderful. I have 5 girls so if you ever have a ‘girl’ question I might be able to help. x

    • Dear Kim, thanx for your message. You are a Pro with girls so for sure I Will ask you stuff. Thanx for been so open. Best wishes xoxo

  6. Oh Enzo I am so happy for you, what a stressful start you and Ziara had but I just saw your photo on Dr S website and she is adorable. She is so lucky to have you as her Daddy, and I’m so glad she is well now 🙂

    • Hi Bernadette! Hope your baby girl and baby boy are doing just fine. You have tons to do ahead, but what a blessing.
      I was reading your blog, good to know all off you guys are doing well. Best of luck! Enjoy Delhi! Xoxo

  7. Welcome back to the virtual world !!

    Glad to see that you are enjoying that wonderful feeling to be a parent. Don’t worry about premature babies, Julian was one one time and now is the most active child at the neighborhood.

    Congratulations again and a happy came back !!
    Dimas

    Note: Please give a big kiss to your very own particular nurse 😉

    • Mi Querido Dimas!
      La enfermera te mand amuchos saludos.
      Gracias por tu mensaje ,e stamso contando los dias para regresar.
      Estoy disfrutnaod muchisimo cuidarle y mimarle a mi gorda. Es lo mejor del mundo.
      Gracias por estar presente , nos vemos muy pronto.
      Un abrazo

  8. CONGRATULATIONS CONGRATULATIONS CONGRATULATIONS ENZO! I had wondered why your blog was so quiet – certainly your life wasn’t!! Very best wishes to you and beautiful Ziara. Already you are a great dad.

    • Thnk you Tom!!!! you are getting closer too!!!!!! Thank you for reading and keeping up with the Caiozzi´s hahaha.
      Update me about your life please!!!! Lots of exitement to come , beware. xoxo

    • Puerco!! ya debes etsra extrañando al veci no??? Ya pronto regresamos!!!!!!
      LEs etxrañamos mucho. Besos a los dos , uno especial al Robertito. LAdyzen les manda abrazos y besos, que ya tiene lista la receta de guatita con curry jajaja
      xoxo

  9. Dear Enzo,
    congratulations for you and your wonderfull girl!
    You will be the best father of fathers.
    Now you take care of your selfs and meet all the wonderfull things that you will meet
    together.

    With love,
    Glenn & Per and Lucky

  10. Felicidades!! aunque no te conozco personalmente, he seguido tu blog desde que escuché la entrevista que te hizo Michelle Oquendo. Me alegro tanto por ustedes dos, les deseo toda la felicidad del mundo en su aventura hermosa de ser una familia. Que bueno que Ziara haya podido salir del hospital y esté ganando peso. El amor de papa es la mejor receta,no? Mimale mucho, besale mucho, abrazale, acariciale mucho, mucho, que los bebitos lo que necesitan es sobredosis de amor y de mimos, eso no lo malcria, los hace mas seguros y emocionalmente estables. Y disfruta mucho de cada etapa, que el tiempo pasa volando!

    • Estimada Veronica , muchas gracias por tu mensaje. Tienes mucha razon en lo que me dices , la verdad los bebes/niños necesitan toneladas de amor y paciencia. Mi hermana muy sabiamente me regalo un liro que se llama “Besame Mucho” por Carlos Gonzalez en el cual se propone regresar a la forma antigua de criar los hijos a base de amor y comprension. Me encnata ver que existen opciones asi que a los padres nos orientan. Mil gracias por leer y por aportar con tus valiosos comentarios.
      Un lindo dia.

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